{"id":2575,"date":"2021-03-10T20:13:20","date_gmt":"2021-03-11T01:13:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/?p=2575"},"modified":"2021-03-10T20:13:23","modified_gmt":"2021-03-11T01:13:23","slug":"march-10-2021","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/life-in-2021\/march-10-2021\/","title":{"rendered":"March 10, 2021"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I had a development seminar today at work in which the facilitator asked us to write 3 to 5 \u00a0things our inner critic harps on us about. My IC used to work overtime but not anymore. I told the group of forty or so women (all of them younger than me) that one of the good things about getting older is I don\u2019t give a rat\u2019s about most things I used to fret over. Not to say that I don\u2019t care but rather I\u2019ve fine-tuned my outlook to focus on what truly matters to me and what I want for my life. Listening to criticism\u2014lobbed from inside or out\u2014didn\u2019t make the cut. Here are three actions I took that have improved my well-being exponentially:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Telling my IC to get lost and inviting my inner praiser to take up residence<\/li>\n<li>Ridding myself of expectations<\/li>\n<li>Being perfectly okay with the fact that I\u2014and only I\u2014am the only person in the world I can ever count on 100%, taking the pressure off loved ones I used to burden with the role<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>They say aging isn\u2019t for wimps, and I\u2019ll add that aging also isn\u2019t for people who can\u2019t figure out how to love themselves.<\/p>\n<p>I had an appointment in my old neighborhood this afternoon, so afterward I went for a walk in an old haunt. My little marsh was flush with geese, likely the descendants of the geese couples that I\u2019ve witnessed raising young here for the past 10 years. More apartments have gone up in the field across the road where I used to walk, and more are yet to come. I\u2019ve been taking pictures of this place periodically since just before the developers started their destruction. I wanted to have a record of what it used to look like. I guess these apartments and the soccer field are what some call progress. Sometimes aging also isn\u2019t for those who hate to see open spaces cluttered with \u201cprogress.\u201d<a href=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10c-rotated.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-2573\" src=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10c-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10c-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10c-rotated.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10a-rotated.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-2571\" src=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10a-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10a-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10a-rotated.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10b-rotated.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-2572\" src=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10b-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10b-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/lunarivervoices.com\/staging\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/3-10b-rotated.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I had a development seminar today at work in which the facilitator asked us to write 3 to 5 \u00a0things our inner critic harps on us about. My IC used to work overtime but not anymore. 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